I'm starting to realize something - a shift in the way I perceive and perform my role, and it's a journey. Traditionally, I've been the one to jump in, take the reins and drive a project home. Quick decision making? That's been my bread and butter, my way to move things forward. But lately, I've been reflecting on a different angle: the support role.
In the past, I didn't always see the value in hanging back and helping from the sidelines. It didn't feel natural to me. But now, I'm beginning to appreciate it. Not every project needs me in the driver's seat. Sometimes, it's not my place. Sometimes, it's more beneficial to be the sidekick, the consultant, the 'hired gun', as it were.
In those instances, where I didn't birth the project or perhaps lack the inclination or capacity to shoulder all the responsibilities that come with leading, taking on a supporting role can actually be a breath of fresh air. There's an unexpected ease that comes with it - a respite from the heavy lifting of decision-making.
But as I delve into this new territory, I'm realizing it's not just about sliding into the background. There's an art to being a good supporter. And one of the key components, I've found, is ensuring you don't step on the leader's toes.
Yes, there may be times when I see a more effective path and the leader seems hell-bent on taking a different route. But, part of playing this role is understanding when to hold back, even if I believe their decision might be less optimal. As a supporter, my role isn't to override or intervene, but to provide advice - with their consent.
And there's the rub. Offer unsolicited advice, and you risk becoming a nuisance, alienating the very people you aim to help. As a supporter, my place is to offer guidance when asked, to be a resource, not a hindrance. This has been a learning curve for me - understanding how to be a follower, a support player.
And you know what? I'm starting to enjoy it. There's a certain peace in setting expectations for myself and others, in knowing I don't have to be at the helm of every project. It's a relief. It's freeing. I'm learning that I don't always have to lead, but I can be effective and even enjoy my role in the passenger seat.
This journey of understanding how to play a support role well has been enlightening, and honestly, a huge relief. It allows me to assure others that I'm not here to usurp their role, but to assist and support. And that's a message I think people appreciate hearing. "Let me know how I can help," I say. And I mean it. This, I think, is the essence of being a good support player.