So, I've been really focusing on improving my ability to listen to others, and I stumbled upon something through my conversations with my friend Chris. It's a kind of a rule of thumb to know if I'm truly listening efficiently. It's all about noticing if the person I'm talking to is in a flow state, just comfortably expressing themselves without any self-consciousness.
When I create that safe space for them, allowing them to be themselves and talk freely, that's when I know I'm listening well. It's a beautiful feeling when it happens. I can almost see them getting lighter as they connect the dots in their head, unburdening themselves of whatever's been weighing them down.
And I'll admit, it feels really good to be that friend for them, to be the one creating that feeling. There's an honesty in that connection, a bond that's forged through genuine interest and empathy.
But I'm also aware that no one will continue to talk if they feel that they're not being heard. They'll become distracted by my distraction. That's a reminder for me to stay present, to focus on the words and the emotions behind them.
This journey towards becoming a better listener is an ongoing process, and it's filled with realizations about human connection and empathy. I think, in a way, it's also a journey towards understanding myself better and becoming more present with the people around me. It's a path I'm excited to continue exploring.